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Ohh that's surprising! How is that possible? Some participants in a popular local forum even allege that prostitutes boosted the statistics. Even funnier, a male participant calls the manufacturer of the condom a liar because he is a loser and he haven't been in a relationship, yet.

Be realistic. We don't live in Shangri-La. Face the truth. Shangri-La only exists in a popular novel, Lost Horizon, written by James Hilton in 1933. Our world is not earthly paradise. It is too utopian to think in a way that we can put Shangri-La and our world, juxtapositorily.

PRE-MARITAL SEX : WHERE IS THE BOUNDARY LINE

As being described by Paul Stenzel, any type of genital contact is considered sex. The boundary line is just clear. Yes. Oral sex is sex. Physical intercourse is sex. A man penetrating his female neighbor is sex. A secondary school kid thrusting his girlfriend inside some bushes is sex. "Medically speaking, they're very clear, because any type of genital contact can transmit disease."

In my opinion, there's no line to draw. It is not like playing "Territory" when we are still kids. Strictly speaking, having sex is just a matter of choice, whether you want to do it or not. Of course, many factors come into consideration before you do it. Unwanted pregnancies, mental distress, STD but I tell you, breaking the law is the last thing in mind of many teenager couples.

PREMARITAL SEX : AN EMOTIONAL TORTURE

Say you are in one of these situations:

• You are playing it safe. You use a condom. Oh not because your partner insisted you to, but on your free will. However, you don't know that certain type of lubricant somehow weakens the bond between basic isoprene units that make up condoms. You played it hard and the condom bursted. You did not realize it until you got up from your bed for a hot bath. (Haha you are unlucky!)
• You don't use condom because it deprives you of the sensation. You are pretty confident you can withdraw at the right moment. But you are too into your position that you blow up in her. (Pray hard you won't multiply!)
• Both of you are lost somewhere in the steamy world of sex. The girl's dad shouted and knocked down the door. He punched and kicked your ass. (Haha you are lucky coz he did not bring along a parang!)

Imagine the extent of emotional distress and guilt you will feel right away. You won't know for sure whether your girlfriend is pregnant or not. You wait anxiously for your girlfriend's menses. You keep thinking what will happens if she really got pregnant. Family looked down upon, unwanted child, guilty feelings haunting you, Pak Haji come running for you, long life emotional effects and what not.

PREMARITAL SEX : WHAT RELIGIONS SAY

"And go not nigh to fornication; surely it is an indecency and an evil way." (Qur'an 17:32)

"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." (Hebrews 13:4)

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Is sex recreation, or re-creation?